| Guilt Trips and why they work! |
Are you vulnerable to Guilt Trips?
99.9% of guilt trips are handed out by family members.
Guilt trips are a way of manipulation, to achieve a desired result out of the one who the guilt trip is aimmed at.
How do you understand guilt trips?
Did you know that guilt trips are associated with the God Complex.
Those of us who feel like they are in control or have the ablitiy to control outcomes of someone elses situation are guilted to believe this.
When one realizes that They are worth their own time to do what they want for themself the guilt trips no longer work.
For example, Here I am, Writing my blogs, a form of self therapy and sometimes used to promote my sale items. I use the blogs to help support my family by selling what I have to offer, Mostly mental therapies, how to see situations from a non boxed view.
To do this, I must blog for the potential clients to help them understand themselves.
As I take this time out for myself, my daughter decides she needs to run to the bank.
I am the driver/parent who must drop my thoughts and run now.
As the guilt trip was being handed out, I almost fell for it. I felt instantly as a bad parent.
I should drop myself now, to do what she wants. I asked her to ask her brother to run her down to grandma's to find her id. Which she has lost again,
I then got the response, Wow Mother. Wow.
Just by that one response, thoughts flooded my head, You chose writing your blog over getting off your butt to take me to grandmas to see if she left her id there. You are a selfish bad mother!
Then I stopped myself, and thought, I have not neglected her, I have dropped 100% of my own wants for the past 17 yrs. I am going to get this blog finished, It will take pry about 20 mins of the morning to do it. My attention right now is on myself. for this moment, I will take it for myself.
I looked at her and said, I love you forever, but you are the one who lost it. I will sit here and finish what I am doing and then I will take you, if you do not find it sooner.
The point of relaying this senerio to the public is to show, We allow the emotional guilt trip to influence our lives. When we stop and step back, to see if we are really the reason for their delimma, we find out, we are not. Therefore, we cannot accept this form of blame.
The guilt trip is gone, we are once again focused and everything set out for the day gets accomplished without feelings of resentment towards the person handing out the guilt.
Think about how you handle guilt trips, How can you change the feelings you recieve and hand back out? Can you remove the guilt and Allow yourself to breath in the emotions of I am worth time too? or do you sit back and admit, you are not worth the time?
